I am in no way judging anybody’s particular situation but when did it become okay for women to settle as the baby momma? I was sitting in class yesterday, and one young lady that she had no intention on marrying her boyfriend of 12 years. Keep in mind that she has 8 children with this man but she was perfectly content with just being his baby momma. To me this is sad. There is no way in hell that I am going to lay down and get pregnant with a man and have no intentions towards marriage. Now I understand if the relationship is already in the direction towards marriage and the pregnancy is an accident, that’s acceptable. But to just have children with a man because he’s spitting some game in your ear is stupidity at its finest. If you think that I’m talking about you, chances are I am. I really just don’t understand why people are so afraid to get married. If you’re living with a man, laying up and having his kids, then you’re doing everything that’s expected of a wife WITHOUT the title or the assets. That, my friend, is being stupid. I refuse to be just a baby momma without having a ring on my left finger and his last name. That ring symbolizes that he has chosen me to be his forever, the one that he can’t live without, the one he wants to come home to, etc. Just because you are his baby momma does not mean that you are his wife. I’m sorry but those two terms are not the same thing. If you are still reading this and you are getting offended by what I'm saying, then take my advice: STOP SETTLING! It's not that hard. Have more expectations in yourself and the relationships that you decide to develop. A man will only go as far as you allow him to go. If you're not placing any standards on yourself and your relationship, what makes you think that a man will? You're not in control of your destiny but you are in control of who you decide to keep in your life.
